Step By Step Seduction Guide
Mystery's M3 pick-up model has everything you need to know about the concepts of seducing women. Seduction can actually be broken down like a scientific experiment. The M3 pick up model, like the scientific method, is a strategy to fix a problem, and what bigger problem is there than how you can attract women? Nevertheless, lots of men may take a look at that and be like in high school chemistry: blank stares mixed with a bit of disgust and fear. For those of you put off by the technical aspect of the M3 model, the following is the simplified version, the step by step pick-up guide for dummies.
The streamlined version of picking up women is basically broken down into 3 steps:
1) Approaching
2) Attract
3) Connection
Boiling everything down to 3 steps makes it a lot easier to learn, memorize, and recognize what phase you are in so you can escalate accordingly. Basically, it works like this: first you approach the target and get in with an opening so the woman becomes interested to the things you have to say. Then you need to get the woman attracted to you, or at the minimum, interested. After the woman is interested, you have to hook her and reel her in by establishing connection.
The Approach
Approaching a random girl is perhaps one of the most daunting things you can do. There is no magic spell to get over this fear. Like any fear, you have to face it then overcome it. The very best way to conquer fear of approaching women and the consequent approach anxiety is to do it over and over till you get desensitized to it. Let's get this straight: you WILL crash and burn and get turned down a lot of times in the beginning. If this stops you from approaching girls, you ought to quit now and become a monk. However, as you acquire painful experience, rejection will get easier to deal with, if not less painful, up until the day comes when you barely get rejected at all. Rules to follow when approaching girls:
1) Follow the three second rule. Approach her within 3 seconds of seeing her.
2) Never ever open with a apology or filler like, "I'm sorry but," "Excuse me," "I couldn't help noticing," "I have to tell you," "If you're not too busy." These make you sound unconfident and like a beggar.
3) Never, ever give her a compliment, particularly if she's pretty. You'll only be among the many boring chumps that month that told her how pretty she is and give her even more power.
4) Do not buy her a drink or flowers or whatever else to get her attention. You can't buy her interest. Buying her stuff serves to show her that you're so pathetic, you need to try and buy her interest.
5) Don't come off as too desperate, eager, or scared. Girls are experts in body language and what is more unappealing than a desperate man eager to do anything to gain her interest ?
The Attract
Once you have successfully approached a girl and she is actually ready and willing to hear just what you have to say, you only have an instant to sell yourself. Consider this phase as the "elevator pitch." You're in an elevator with Warren Buffet and you have until the duration of the elevator ride to pitch him your awesome business concept and get him interested in you. The attraction stage of picking up girls is precisely like that. You have a couple of minutes to sell yourself and get her interest before she dismisses you as not having potential.
Girls are attracted to your perceived value, and to gain her interest, your perceived value needs to equal or surpass her own value. There are 2 means to do this. You can either raise your value or you can lower her value. Raising your value is done with a pick up artist technique called demonstrate high value (DHV) and decreasing her value is done through the pickup technique called negging.
1) Demonstrating high value (DHV)
DHV means that you are doing something or showing her that you deserve her attraction and interest and can supply her with something of value. She has to feel that you add value to her so is worth her time. This is done through pick up artist gimmicks, tricks, routines, or just exhibiting a sense of value like the powerful, rich guys naturally do.
2) Negging
Negging is a type of playful antithesis to complimenting. The objective is to tease her playfully so that her value decreases a bit. A neg must never ever come off as an insult but more of a tease to provoke a response from the girl. Beautiful women especially have such high value that unless you can pull off an extremely high value to meet hers, it is best to decrease her value a little by negging her. Some effective negs are:
"You like shopping for clothes at Walmart, huh ?"
"Isn't that handbag last year's model?"
"Nice hairstyle, very 80's."
"You shouldn't be drinking any more alcohol, you're already not making sense."
"I know a very cheap health club you may like."
"You're like a little sister, cute but annoying."
The Connection
Making a connection is the longest and most satisfying phase in a successful seduction. As soon as you've established mutual attraction and the hard part's over, it's just a matter of learning about each other. You just converse, enjoy each others' company, and make emotional and physical connections. This is the phase where you also escalate your kino (physical contact). Making a connect is mainly done by having a deep conversation and creating similar threads. You can talk about your vulnerabilities and childhood experiences here as well to really establish a deep connection.
